How To Stop Missing Out On The Present Moment?
Have you ever wonder if you are experiencing the best opportunities that might be right in front of you but you cannot see them because you are distracted by what might happen or what had happened? It’s great to plan for the future and to learn the lessons of the past. However, it is important to be appreciative the present moment. The present moment can prepare us for the future events in ways that we cannot yet understand.
According to Lao Tzu, the key to peace and happiness is to “live in the present.” Seems easy enough; don’t get ahead and don’t look behind. Just accept what is happening now.
And, it makes me wonder: How can I even measure this success that I’m after? And, what does it even look like? Will I wake up one day and say, “I feel it! I’ve arrived and I’m at peace!” And will that be enough?
I haven’t yet discovered the secret to staying in the now and being grateful for where I am and what I’ve accomplished so far. But, I’m trying and I’m giving myself — and you — mantras to keep it in check.
It’s safe to say that most people feel happiest when they are in relationships. Being single is great at times and can inspire amazing productivity and personal growth, but most people naturally have the end goal of being with “the one.”
When you start to see all of those engagement announcements roll through on Facebook, it’s very easy to feel the weight of being alone more intensely. We start to wonder if and when it will happen for us.
Some people get so scared that they settle for good enough or less than they deserve just so that they will some day soon get to make that announcement.
You never know what will happen and when you will meet “the one.” And, since you can’t and have little control over it, you might as well leave it up to fate and focus on loving yourself.
Mantra: Stay patient. Don’t force anything. Let things unfold naturally. Enjoy being single because once you do meet someone, you may never be single again.
Everyone has different measures of success when it comes to their careers. For the people who have lofty goals and want to reach for the stars, the road to get there is often filled with roadblocks and detours and rough terrain. It’s a necessary path, though, as it weeds out the ones who don’t fit or don’t have the physical or mental strength required.
But then, what happens if you do get to your goal? Then comes a whole new set of goals and challenges. Maybe you are a basketball player who wants to play in college, and you start striving for the NBA.
Then, you want to be the best in the NBA, have the most rings, make the Olympics, break the records, make history. It literally never stops.
It’s a funny thing that our minds do to us. “Once I get this, then…” And, what happens if you don’t? Then what?
It’s important to focus on what you have now and celebrate what it took to even get to that point. You may have so much more that you are striving for, but it’s important to think about what you can accomplish today.
You can look at the big picture and feel sad for what is not there, or you can be happy for what is, and look just one step ahead instead of 10.
Mantra: I am going to work as hard as I can to achieve my goals one day at a time, and I feel at peace with whatever outcome happens.
Sometimes, I think that once I finally have financial comfort, I will be happy. I know material things and savings are not what life is about, but I can’t help but feel like having them would greatly improve upon my life.
We all know the saying, “money can’t buy happiness.” And, while that saying is true, it does seem like money might bring about a great deal of relief. If we could at least just not stress about money, then we could focus on more important things that we want to do.
Money is so relative; if you have more, you spend more. Maybe your head feels further above water, but you still probably aren’t swimming in riches. With a nicer car comes a bigger car payment. If you want to buy nicer designer clothing, you have to shop at more expensive stores. You can finally buy that house, but now you have a mortgage.
Sometimes, more money does mean more problems, and definitely more financial responsibilities. It still seems like the better deal, but it’s important to know that it doesn’t guarantee happiness.
Mantra: I am not completely financially at peace yet, but there are much greater joys in my life than being able to pay for things.
You are the only thing that can ruin your happiness. Changes happen constantly, whether you like it or not. Your whole life could change tomorrow, for the better or worse.
Yearning for the future will cause you to miss the gift of the present, and the present is all we have. No one knows for sure how many days we get to have. So, don’t miss the opportunity to take full advantage of every single one.
Written by Lauren Skirvin